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Abusive relationships
Stories repeat themselves. It all starts with passion and the enchantment of the other person enchants our mind . Some brave people try to warn us, but years and years later we remember that the signs were there from the beginning. We just didn't see them.
When we manage to get out of an abusive relationship, it doesn't take long for us to get into another one. With the same problems. That's when the diagnosis comes: "we have a bad hand" .
If you identify with this situation, know that the issue is complex and the cause is not in your finger. These are emotional gaps that need to be recognized and reinterpreted , so that this pattern does not set in - much less repeat itself.
O desamparo aprendido
When we see an animal with the strength of an elephant passively submit to its trainer, we may be perplexed by the lack of reaction .
Elephants are captured as calves and tied to trunks from which they try to free themselves, but are unable to do so.
They give up and never try again .
When they grow up , they can be tied to a broomstick, because they have learned that they cannot free themselves from the rope. And so they become... subjugated.
This is called learned helplessness .
Something similar can happen with our relationships. Those on the outside don't understand why we don't walk away .
Não é tão simples assim...
Alongside a manipulative profile there is always someone who allows themselves to be manipulated . Finding the reasons why this happens is a key to liberation.
Behind the scenes usually involves:
low self-esteem,
low self-confidence,
identity crisis.
It is also common to find in childhood experiences what we call insecure attachment .
Dysfunctional family dynamics, bullying, excessive criticism and demands contribute to the formation of adults with emotional dependencies .
Just as in the example of the elephant, it would be necessary for it to relearn to act according to its potential , those who suffer relational abuse must follow the same line of rescue.
The first step
Quando percebemos que estamos numa relação abusiva, normalmente os mecanismos de manipulação e dependência já estão estabelecidos.
Por isso é preciso haver um processo de transformação interior.
Entender como o ciclo se repete é fundamental para romper a corda que nos prende ao mesmo lugar.
Ao olhar os nossos bastidores emocionais acharemos a causa por trás das permissões que concedemos ao abusador.
Sim, nós é que nos deixamos ser amarrados.
E o primeiro passo para mudar tudo isso é investir em autoconhecimento.
É possível resgatar o potencial de agir que um dia você perdeu.
Lembre da história do elefante:
Ah, se ele soubesse a força que tem...
Venha fazer parte de nossas oficinas de transformação pessoal.
Podemos te ajudar!