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The whirlwind of divorce
No one comes out of a divorce unscathed .
Neither the one who asked, nor if it is friendly.
Managing emotions wisely is essential to minimize damage.
When two hurricanes meet they move up a category . The damage is much greater.
Therefore, if we want to get through this whirlwind in the least painful way possible, we will have to act with self-control , emotional intelligence and our feet on the ground .
How to develop self-control?
When we talk about self-control , we are talking about behavior .
We cannot prevent emotions from arising within us, but we can (and should) control our reaction to them.
In a divorce process, it is common for there to be conflicts.
There are three common backgrounds behind them:
power and control struggles,
fight for respect and recognition ,
expectations of care and closeness .
Understanding what bothers you and what affects the other person is important for efficient and peaceful communication.
There is no need to agree or convince . But an agreement should emerge from each difficult conversation you have.
Emotional intelligence
Knowing how to manage emotions is essential for any area of life. But when moments of anger arrive, we pass the test or fail.
In a divorce process, anger is one of the most experienced emotions. We will come across it. Frustration, sadness, anxiety, hurt, fear... come back.
And in a relationship where the triggers are already known, provocations can be used against us. We need to know how to act with emotional intelligence for our own good.
Feet on the ground
Our project is guided by Christian values.
Therefore, we consider divorce as a last option .
But it happens and in the face of this we need to keep our feet on the ground .
If you are going through this process, learning to deal with emotions, knowing your rights, issues of child custody, sharing of assets, pension... is necessary.
Take a look at our transformation workshops, there's a lot of good stuff there.
